Monday, December 14, 2015
I was listening to the Marcus & Sandy morning show here on Star 101.3 FM in the SF Bay area a few days ago. They had a segment called "Second Date Update" where people call in to find out why a date went wrong and to see if there is any possibility of getting a second date with the person. You can listen to the short podcast here.
The woman on the show, Teresa, didn't understand why the guy didn't call for a second date. But when the show got a hold of the guy, he complained that Teresa was posting on Snapchat throughout the date. What struck me about the whole conversation was when Teresa said, "I'm a social media Star!"
She said she felt compelled to let her followers know what she was doing at all times. "This is my Job!" she said, indignantly.
This got me thinking: What constitutes being a 'Social Media Star'? Is it having a huge number of followers? Is it somehow monetizing your 'Brand'? How many followers does it take to be classified as a SMT? As I do not really have all that many followers, I know I am hardly a Social Media Star.
This got me to thinking about how many of us are dependent on social media to confirm our self-worth. Confession time: I am as guilty as anyone of this. I do constantly check to see how many followers I have on Twitter and how many people read my latest post on my blog. I do get a thrill when lots of people comment on my writing and engage with me. Why is that?
I think in our busy world, it is easier to make online friends than actual, in person friendships. Especially with Twitter and blogs (if you are careful not to get political) it's easy to be pleasant and have positive interactions online. Does that mean I need to get out more and be with "real" people? Yes it does. But it also has enhanced my life substantially and helped me see that I can be an interesting person that others may want to hang out with. So in that light, I have had an increase in self-esteem due to social media. But I also need to not take social media too seriously. Do I want to be a 'Social Media Star"? No way. But I am grateful for social media for helping me be less shy and for making me feel like people will listen when I have something to say. For shy people such as myself, this is a huge help for me.
What do you think of SMT's? Do you aspire to be one? Do you have a favorite SMT? Let me know in the comments section.